This Is Why I WRite About Abuse

This is why I write about narcissistic abuse and childhood sexual abuse. 
This is why I’m writing a book. 
This is why I’m preparing a Ted Talk.
It’s not obsession with the past. 
It’s not “I can’t get over it.” 


It’s real and it affects far too many people on this planet. Shining a light is the only way, and many women I know who have gone through or are going through hell can’t shine a light. 

I can and I will. 


I received this beautiful message from someone I haven’t seen in 20 years:


“Hi Kiersten, not sure you will remember me but I worked with you years ago....Anyway, I was sitting with (name) and she texted me your blog. Wow...I want you to know that you are a truly beautiful person, to me you just always used to light up the room! Thank you for your posts. I read through them one by one and the dirty John post the other day. They have helped me tremendously know that I’m not a fool. Mine was more subtle...he slowly ticked away at my confidence over the years until there was no self worth left. You are right about weaker individuals preying on stronger ones, not sure why it gives them power. I’ve been out of the marriage (x) years now ...looking back the number 1 thing I tell people is I can see colors again...I had stopped seeing colors until one day about 3 months away from him...I walked outside and the bright colors about mowed me over. I never want to go back to that gray. I’m at peace and have so much happiness now and realize being thankful for life is such a blessing. I just wanted to send a little thank you your way....💋 Xo”